joy pedrow skarka
Ministering to Women Addicted to Pornography
6-months, Limited to 12 people
$135 / Month or $750
“Porn for women” ranked number one in searches on Pornhub in 2017, increasing by over 1,400 percent since 2016. Pornography is a growing epidemic. 1 out of 3 visitors to adult sites are women. As the number of women addicted to pornography rises, women need your help finding freedom from sexual shame and brokenness. They need to learn a biblical theology of sex.
Do you feel unequipped to deal with pornography addiction in your ministry? Unsure of how to respond, lead and guide women as they open up about their struggles? Join Joy and learn how to minister to women and free them from sexual shame and sexual addiction. By the end, you will know how to free, restore and equip women through the gospel of Jesus Christ, so that they will love him more, understand their brokenness, and find freedom.
Session 1: The Power of Your Story
Joy thought something was wrong with her. She had questions about sex and felt shameful for her desires… this led her to pornography, which continued her cycle of shame. In Session 1, Joy will share her story of finding freedom from sexual brokenness. You will look at the statistics and characteristics surrounding women and pornography and define addiction.
Reading: No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie C. Ferree
Session 2: Sexual Shame
In Session 2, you will unpack sexual shame and its impact on sexual sin. Shame makes women feel unworthy of love, especially the love of God. Without feeling worthy of that love, women continue to live in a cycle of sexual sin and unworthiness. You will answer questions like: What are ways you can love women with addiction instead of shame them? What are ways you can work on changing the heart and not the behavior?
Reading: Chose one: The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves by Curt Thompson; or: I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown
Session 3: What Does It Mean to be a Sexual Being?
God created humans as sexual beings, yet many women feel shame for their sexual desires and curiosities. In Session 3, you will learn that God created women as sexual beings, and you will explore ways woman can live out their sexuality in the way God originally designed it—naked and unashamed. You will go back to the Garden of Eden to restore God’s design for sexuality.
Reading: Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery
Session 4: What Happens in the Brain?
In Session 4, you will talk about what happens in the brain for those who struggle with sexual addiction. You will learn about the chemical reinforcements released in the brain while watching porn and how those reinforce the addictive cycle. You will also talk about masturbation: Is it a sin? Is it ever acceptable? What should a woman do with her sexual desires?
Reading: Choose one: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk'; OR Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction by Maia Szalavitz
Session 5: Lies Porn Addicts Believe
In Session 5, you will discuss lies women believe surrounding sex and porn, including “sex is bad,” “my body needs to look like the women I see on the screen,” and “I’ll always be addicted.” You will discuss how the purity culture perpetuated these lies and how believing these lies deeply affects a woman's sexuality and spirituality.
Reading: (Optional) Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser
Session 6: Practical Resources
In Session 6, you will create a tool box of practical ways to help women find freedom from porn. You will talk about community, internet filters, recovery ministries, and triggers. You will discuss what healthy accountability looks like and how the church can begin to have conversations about sexuality.
Reading: (Optional) Sex, Jesus, and the Conversations the Church Forgot by Mo Isom
For six years, Joy Pedrow Skarka has been writing and ministering to women about sexual issues. Joy is dedicated to and passionate about creating spaces to bring women freedom. As a doctoral student at Dallas Theological Seminary (DTS), Joy has read countless books about women, sexuality and shame. Her blog, JoyPedrow.com, has an average of more than 20,000 monthly views and has more than 3,000 email subscribers. In 2018, Joy launched local (Dallas, TX) and online small groups for women to work through their sexual shame and brokenness. Now she wants to teach you all that she has learned.
Joy has written articles for the Dallas Theological Seminary Magazine, bible.org, Bible.com, XXXChurch, and FATHOM Mag. Since 2014, Joy has had the pleasure of speaking at seminary events, churches, conferences, college groups, and college retreats. Joy has been on sexuality panels at singles summits and on podcasts—all to help free women from sexual shame. A few of her favorite speaking engagements have included: Dallas Theological Seminary’s (DTS’s) Women’s Leadership Conference, which featured Christine Caine. Joy led two workshops on how to minister to women struggling with porn addiction. Joy has also had the privilege of teaching DTS’s female students how to help other women find freedom from pornography. Joy loves college students and will speak to them any chance she gets. She spoke at multiple events for Student Mobilization, a college ministry, including their annual all-staff training. Joy has been a part of many Cru events from 2014 to the present. These events include the Cru Winter Leadership Summit and the Cru Women’s Ministry Retreat.
When Joy is not writing or speaking, she loves to paint, puzzle, and go on adventures with her husband and her friends. You can tweet at her @JoyPedrow.
Who is this for?
Women in ministry (parachurch or local church)
Women discipling women
Women serving in recovery ministry
What do I get?
6 live monthly video calls with your small group, 2 hours of teaching, development, Q/A (via Zoom Meeting)
Private online community (via Slack) to collaborate with Joy and group
1 60-minute coaching call with Joy
A monthly Mastermind (peer-to-peer) group with 2-3 women
Access to video sessions, to rewatch or
if you missed a call
What do I invest?
$135/ month or $750 one-time payment. (USD)
Participation on live video calls for at least 5 of 6 months
Engagement in ‘Slack’ online community, sharing questions, ideas, and goals
Read books or articles Joy recommends for the sessions